What is Shared Parenting?

The presumption for Joint Physical and Legal Custody in a divorce when neither parent is found unfit.

There is no other initiative, on its whole, that will reduce divorce and conflict in divorce than the Shared Parenting presumtion.

Before there are children, a divorce is the rescinding of a nuptial contract. In contract law, this would be the equivalent of a 30 or 90 day retail return policy with no questions asked. The separate parties can go their separate ways without any lasting damage.

When kids are involved, however, the breaking of the contract takes on a whole different dimension. That is, dimension in the sense of space and time. A father who, prior to separation, spends as much of his non-working, waking hours with his children is seen as both a positive family figure and, by the jealous wife, as a competitor for her attention with the kids.

The father, realizing the wisdom and joy of the family working together to achieve safety, security, comfort, and joy together, represents a balancing force against the woman whose attention is distracted from complete control over the children she has birthed. Not a patriarchy. Not a matriarcy. This is a balanced, productive family capable being aware of and interacting with generations of family.

Should one parent, usually the mother, decide that it is in her best interests to rescind the nuptial contract and take the children with her, today's pro-feminist and misandrist laws permit her to do so without impunity. Not only can she break the contract, she can claim to be the victim of the contractual relationship and demand physical and legal custody as well as child support. The mother can usually marshal the legal representation of pro-divorce lawyer, psychologists, and others to come to her defense, often paid for by the government.

Fathers, by nature, are offended by the economic and emotional injustice of having their children taken away by force and having to pay for child support, by shame, and having their visitation constantly disrupted by the custodial parent who exercises her right of total control to deny visitation.

Parents are not visitors. Fathers and mothers belong, equally, in a child's life. To deny that is emotional abuse.

The Shared Parenting initiative presumes that divorces are not founded in selfish motives to use the children for economic and financial gain; thereby removing 9/10ths of the old Ann Landers question, "Are you better off without him?".

Instead, the question of divorce is focused primarily on the reason for the nuptial contract; the bearing of and maturing of children. By removing the financial and emotional incentives to divorce, we protect the children whom we have borne into this world.